I don't know if I'm even allow to ask this here,
But guys, has any of u been thru a breakup? Or rejection?
How'd you deal with it?
Hey Janiru, I'm really sorry to hear about your breakup! - you'll know already that nothing anyone can say will really change how you feel right now - and that's absolutely normal, but hopefully something you read on here can ensure you that you're at least not alone.
I suffered a really bad breakup in my late teens (after 2 years long distance, seeing eachother in person/waiting months to see eachother again etc) and it really really shook me to my core - definitely one of the darkest times I've been through - I drank ALOT, Cried ALOT, dropped out of Music College and couldnt even stick out jobs due to crazy anxiety.
It was however, the best thing that ever happened to me - this is where my advice comes in
The thing that lifted me out of my heartbreak eventually was immersing myself in the things that I was passionate about - writing music - and surrounding myself with friends. It wasn't a magic formula - I was still hurting - but every day, a bit less.
Somewhere along the line the penny dropped:
A breakup is a opportunity. It's an opportunity to build a new relationship with *yourself* - your time is your own, you answer to nobody - you get to rebuild however you see fit. I realised it and it still hurt, but there was a clarity there.
So I kept writing which lead me to playing solo gigs, meeting the singer of my old band, meeting my now Fiance and getting my dream teaching job - all off of the back of just delving completely into my craft to get out of that place.
So my advice is to feel what you need to feel - unapologetically - and try your best to find things that interest you, fascinate you, to immerse yourself in - to momentarily take you out of that place of hurt and into a place where you can feel purpose and happiness. The things that will grow out of doing that will start to change everything
Look forward and keep going. I promise you are 100% stronger than you feel
We're also always here on the school - you can DM me anytime you need to chat/unload
I really hope your okay and hope this helps, hopefully that wasnt too much of a ramble! x