Considering Giving Up On Lead Guitar....

TheRedMageGuitarist

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Expectations, my friend.

Among the more hidden & dangerous, yet subconscious mistakes we tend to make is having expectations overwhelm us without us knowing.

I've watched countless interviews of ZV saying that he had to force himself to learn arpeggios to play those harmonizing parts with @Syn Gates , although ZV was more comfortable playing punk and rhythm, palm-muting, down-picking riffs. Does it make him a better guitar player? Certainly does. Could he have chosen not to learn those parts? He could, but he knew what he needed to do for the band. Else, Johnny would've taken that role despite lacking 2 strings. (also, ZV has one of the cleanest picking next to Syn)

My humble advice would be to drop the expectations at the time you are practicing and close the 'comparison door'. Why? Because practice is for you and you only. We tend to give ourselves imaginary deadlines hence demotivates us from pursuing, say for example, a guitar solo. We have that voice telling us that we need to master a solo in 2 weeks, for example, but in actual fact, nobody is expecting or telling you to master that in that timespan. Nobody is telling you what should or should be or what is right or wrong in your guitar journey.

Another thing would be the 'label'. Don't worry about not being able to 'play lead' for now. Take a break, move on to something else. The world of music is not limited to what you see and hear yourself being in. It's vast, it's beautiful. You'll probably be able to play lead one day again when your hands are warmed up from all the other things you've played and learned. Trust me.

You don't just learn how to run by working your legs. Your upper body plays just as an important role. Metaphorically speaking.

We've all been there, syster. You've been doing well and you'll only get better :)

Cheers, Jak! :rock-hand:
This entire comment spoke VOLUMES to my soul in such a deep level i can't even describe. But when you said "We tend to give ourselves imaginary deadlines hence demotivates us from pursuing, say for example, a guitar solo", that is exactly my thought process every time I pick up the guitar. It's deadlines. End game. Etc...
Your words were amazing and beyond inspiring. Thank you🙏🙏
 
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I've been playing for a lot less time than most here and I don't feel like I can give proper advice on this, but I just wanted to say: don't be too hard on yourself and play what you love to play. If some solo is not where you want it in x days, move on to something else, and then maybe come back to it with a fresh mind and possibly some improvement gained while working on another lick or song. Don't beat yourself up over this, you don't need to be the best in everything to be great (that, you already are) ❤

Side note: I love playing rhythm, I'm much more comfortable with it myself. I struggle a lot with solos 🥲 but I know I'm just at the beginning and can't leave that behind.
Thank you Sys... you always come in when I need help. I appreciate this love and support so damn much. Thank you🙏 I really needed to hear this
 

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    Haven't read through every other responds but here's my opinion:

    Every guitarist is different and so everybody has different strenghts and weaknesses. That also means that how well you can play someone elses solo should not influence your decision on what kind of guitarist you want to be. I know your abilities and know you can play sick solos. Just write Solos you can do. You and your Body know best what you can. So If you write something without trying to make it like someone elses solo you will automaticly write something that is 100% you and that you can actually perform. That's how it is for me at least
     

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    I haven't 100% read through everything everybody else has said, but I just wanna give my opinion on this as an anxious, perfectionistic person 😂

    It is totally okay to decide something is not for you (right now). You can't be and don't have to be incredible at everything you do or try. Like others have said, this should be, at the core, something you do for yourself and because you enjoy it. Everybody learns and progresses in different ways and at different speeds so just because someone else was able to do it after [insert period of time] doesn't mean you have to do it in the same time or that this is some sort of race/competition where we all have to beat each others 'scores'.
    I think it comes down to the same thing that was said in the "move on with what you are practicing" thread: it's fine to take a break from something and focus on other aspects. And also don't put the bar too high for yourself 😉
     
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    If you start thinking like this, then You are on the good way. You know why? Because it's not an Easy adventure to reach the top. I bet, Syn himself has (used to have) those moments of doubt. I bet Syn himself keep asking himself if he will reach John Petrucci Skill level, or Slash, or Dime. ( Or maybe he doesnt lol).

    Keep the hard work. Start listening different things, why not trying to write you own guitar
    solo over an A7X rythm guitar backing track?

    Give your hand and brain some rest.

    Don't forget you are on the good way.

    Matt
     
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    Just my two cents here

    A lead guitarists is nothing without a great rhythm guitarists, that the first so if you're better at rhythm go kick some ass on rhythm and lead guitarists will love you for it.

    Than there is the part about struggling with bends, I play gypsy jazz a lot and really bends rarely exceed half steps and they sounds amazing so nothing wrong with not being able to do the big bends. You can write great solos without it just fine. No need to worry about be bends all that much(you could even create your own style and slide up instead of bend up to a note for example)

    In the general sense I genuinely believe anyone can learn anything at least to some level. Maybe you want be able to be a Syn level lead guitarists(let's be honest how many people really are?) But you could be a kickass rhythm guitarist like Zacky who also happens to be really great at playing lead(he does have to follow Syn in harmonies in the end ya know).
     

    TheRedMageGuitarist

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    Hey everyone! I am not going to lie I was not anticipating this enormous amount of outpouring love and support. I want everyone to know I've read everyone's comments and they've all been super helpful. I'm going to set some time aside today to respond to everyone individually because it's totally needed and deserved for everyone's passionate responses. I love you guys so much!
     

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    Hey everyone! I am not going to lie I was not anticipating this enormous amount of outpouring love and support. I want everyone to know I've read everyone's comments and they've all been super helpful. I'm going to set some time aside today to respond to everyone individually because it's totally needed and deserved for everyone's passionate responses. I love you guys so much!
    We love you too! Which is why we don't want you to give up!!!!!
     
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